Tokophobia; Are You Afraid of Pregnant Woman?

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Tokophobia, otherwise known as 'Enfantaphobia' or fear of childbirth or pregnancy, is a form of specific phobia.
Tokophobia, otherwise known as ‘Enfantaphobia’ or fear of childbirth or pregnancy, is a form of specific phobia.

If you resent the thought of ever having a baby so much that even being near a pregnant woman is unbearable for you, you could very well be suffering from Tokophobia. Let us explore this strange fear that is almost a taboo in our society, so that we understand it a little better.

Tokophobia is defined as a debilitating phobia of both pregnancy as well as childbirth. What makes it worse is that many women cannot talk openly about it because we live in a world where pregnancy is naturally expected to be the happiest phase of a woman’s life.

However, do not confuse Tokophobia with pregnancy related anxiety; every pregnant woman faces bouts of anxiety and some even experience mild depression, but Tokophobia is something a lot more serious.

Do you relate to this image?
Do you relate to this image?

Could you have Tokophobia?

The most important thing to understand is that Tokophobia could be a serious disorder and can result in long term damages if not understood. What makes it even more dangerous is that it is not easy to diagnose; many women mistake Tokophobia for a ‘lack of interest in ever having a baby’ and make life-changing decisions without realizing they are dealing with a phobia.

While many women living with Tokophobia choose elective termination not because they ‘do not want the baby at this point of time’ but because ‘they are afraid to have a baby’, they are not open about the same with their doctors and sometimes even their partners.

Some symptoms of Tokophobia are:

  • Feelings of dread when someone mentions childbirth
  • Not wanting to have a baby until the doctor agrees to a C-section
  • Intense anxiety and depression while pregnant because thoughts of childbirth give cause to panic
  • Wanting to become a mother but not wanting to go through childbirth
  • Termination of previous healthy pregnancies because the thought of going through the agony of normal childbirth was frightening
  • Extreme fear that relies on the assumption that childbirth will cause death or serious damage

 

Tokophobia is a specific and harrowing condition that needs acknowledging.
Tokophobia is a specific and harrowing condition that needs acknowledging.

Taking a closer look at Tokophobia

Like all other phobias, Tokophobia also has many degrees and each case might be unique. However, for most patients, the common factor will be their fear of a natural childbirth. Some will be brave enough to not abort the fetus but then elect for a C-section and have it no other way, while others will refuse to get pregnant even though they are not opposed to being a parent and the responsibilities attached to it, and will even show an interest in adoption.

For most women with Tokophobia, postnatal depression is also common, especially if they have been forced by the family and doctors to go through a normal pregnancy.

In fact, those who fear childbirth so much that the thought of ever becoming pregnant is repulsive to them will use multiple methods of contraception at a time to ensure that they do not conceive.

This is often called as Secondary Tokophobia, wherein the fear is not just of childbirth, but of pregnancy itself. Such women find the very idea of pregnancy ‘disgusting and undignified’, and actually dislike being in the company of other pregnant women because even listening to their ‘pregnancy talk’ is unbearable.

Is Tokophobia serious?

The answer depends on you and your choices. If you do want to become a mother and have a family someday, it could be a serious problem, considering you will need to find a gynecologist and obstetrician who can understand what you are going through and work with you to make your pregnancy and childbirth more bearable.

7 Comments Add yours

  1. rubygloommel says:

    Hi, thanks for writing about tokophobia – it’s a horrible thing to have! However I think you’ve got a couple of terms mixed up. Primary tokophobia is when you’re afraid of childbirth before having a child, and secondary tokophobia is when you’re afraid as the result of a traumatic birth. Fear of pregnancy is a related but different phobia.

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    1. Hi Ruby,

      Thanks for liking the article :)

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  2. ouidepuis1 says:

    Heavy stuff. I have never heard of this before. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Glad you liked it. I suffer from this personally and people usually think I am a freak! Lol

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      1. ouidepuis1 says:

        Wow. I couldn’t imagine feeling like that. I am probably the opposite… You know, when kids stuff pillows under their shirt pretending to be pregnant kinda thing :p Does it effect you a lot in the day-to-day?

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      2. Hey,

        Yes, it’s pretty difficult for me since I find it difficult to be around pregnant women and they seem to lot around, everywhere. The sight of the huge belly freaks me out and since I can’t really explain to the happy mom-to-be how I am feeling, I am usually termed as a ‘snob’. But trust me, the fear of pregnancy and pregnant woman is pretty nerve-wracking. But thankfully this is a legit condition and I am not the only one suffering from it.

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  3. kc says:

    Thank you for the information. I doubt I will ever get over my fear but it’s nice to know I’m not the only one this afraid of just the idea of being pregnant. However that last picture really bothered me. That is the image I get when I think of being pregnant, and I feel instantly sick.

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